Stop. Redo?

 

  Recognizing negative energy is a key to improving relationships and in guidance.  After you recognize this negative energy, be willing to be kind and allow time for repair.  Consider giving yourself and your child or spouse the permission to stop talking. Perhaps the silence and space will help you catch your breath and give you time to find reason and a common ground.  After a good pause of silence, consider giving each other permission to "Start Over."  Go ahead and ask, "Can we start over?"  Let them know you are sorry for your reaction or for the events and energy that has lead to the situation at hand.  Change the subject and enjoy your time together; embrace the love you have for each other - above all else.  If a deep conversation needs to take place and solutions need to be discussed - be patient.  Maybe now is not the time for this talk; soon, but not yet.  Productive conversation can take a lot of energy. Respect each other.   Enjoy the power of a "redo" and embrace a lesson in grit and in a rebound of human perspective.

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